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If you can't listen, don't talk

I love my cousin and I want her to be happy. But I hate arguing with her the same things, usually relationships. And here we go again with another one.

She met this guy on New Years but I didn't find out about him until some time in February. What she told me about him didn't sit right with me. It sounded like he was feeding her BS excuses, but one thing she does is make excuses for him. Since I've never met him, I dont know what the truth is so I'm not trying to call him out. This is about her, my cousin.

This is the jist of what I told her: While he sounds like a nice guy, it's evident that he doesn't have time or resources to do and give you want you want, cause I know how you operate in relationships. It's fine to be friends with him but go check out other options while he gets himself together.

She never listens to advice but forever asks for it or asks for your opinion on the subject. Some weeks went by and then I see her post on FB saying they are official. I was happy when I saw the post because I thought finally dude came around. A few days later I gave her a call to talk to her about it, but she was with him. I said, that's all i need to know (she sounded really happy) and I'll just talk to her later. She called me a few days later and we talked about it. And it all went downhill from there.

These are some of the points I was trying to make to her:

1) If a guy likes you he will make time for you PERIOD! He will call, text, email, FB, tweet, instagram, SOMETHING! Doesn't matter how busy he is, if he really likes you, he'll make time not excuses.

Her response: he's getting better.

2) Every relationship starts with the "honeymoon phase" where everything is great. If you start on not so great terms or they have caused you multiple incidents of stress or grief, why oh why would you consider moving forward with them? Why would you get serious with someone who's upset you on several occasions and you've only known them for 2 months?

Her response: it's too late now (to break up) so she's gonna tuff it out.

3) You are not holding him accountable or punishing him for wrongs against you. Making it up to you is not punishment enough, especially if thats the most frequently used excuse to pacify you. And when he doesn't deliver on those make-it-up days, what, you just let him make those up too?

Her response: I always give people the benefit of the doubt. *rolling my eyes*

4) You were so desperate to be in a relationship that you are sacrificing your own morals and a piece of your happiness just to say "I got a man." How can you say you don't condone something, and in the same sentence follow up with sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do? You are compromising for him but it doesn't seem reciprocal.

Her response: more excuses (it's been so long since she's been in a relationship, she has to get back into the swing of things. Yes she was dead serious every time she said it in our conversation)

5) You not having a job is no excuse. Point blank period. It has nothing to do with the things he does or doesn't do.

Her response: more excuses

6) This guy is not your ideal mate nor will you be missing out on blessings, like some bird friend of yours said. If he was your ideal mate, you'd be in the "honeymoon phase" right now. He's causing you more stress than happiness, you're compromising for him more so than he is for you, most of your friends don't have anything positive to say about the relationship, and in spite of all that you think he's your knight in shining armor?

Her response: blah blah blah (more excuses) then back to #2 again

7) I've said this to her before and I have to keep saying it. Whatever issues this man has in life, if you decide you want to be with him you have to accept these issues. Meaning, don't complain about the same stuff he's doing now that he was doing when you meet him. You knew what it was and still got with him. So you have no right to complain. If you have a problem, don't go calling and telling everybody about it, cause it's YOUR problem that you CHOSE to have by being with him. You ask for advice but don't take it. You ask for opinions but then shoot them down. Stop telling people your business if you don't want to hear the response.

Her response: just let me do me

It's obvious you're not listening to my advice so how am I stopping you? You haven't listened to anybody when it comes to this dude (AFAIK) so you are definitely doing you. But doing you means making dumb decisions, complaining about it, not taking advice on how to fix it, and coming back to complain more about the same problem or a newly created problem from not following the advice you sought. So by all means, do you boo! Just remember #7 as you do.

Her response: ok (we'll see how long that lasts)

I really genuinely want my cousin to be happy. I just don't think this guy is right for her right now. He has too much going on in his life and she is very demanding. But I'm done with both of them for now. I hope he does get it together and I will be the first to apologize if he proves me wrong. If....

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My Own Personal Philosophy on Life

If it doesn't affect your health, you money, or directly hurt your family, you need not be concerned about it.

Eliminate unnecessary stress by focusing on the things that really matter.

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It's So Hard To Say Goodbye

This will be the last time I speak on this situation. While I do miss my friend sometimes, I know that I'm not missed on their end. Opportunities have presented themselves for this person to fix the problem, but absolutely no efforts have been made. Couldn't be, cause we wouldn't be where we are if they wanted the problem fixed. Apparently I'm the only one who thinks it's a problem. This person is perfectly content without my friendship and until they decide to change that, I'm wiping my hands from the situation and from them. It was fun while it lasted. I will not put anymore time and energy into someone who won't put in the same for me. I will only reciprocate. If they do nothing, I do nothing. If they reach out to me, I will reach out to them. The ball has BEEN in their court and its collecting dust. So unless something changes, it's goodbye!

Lupe Fiasco Concert

Last night I went to my first Lupe Fiasco concert and it was awesome. He put on a great performance and I would definitely go see him again.

I won my ticket to the concert from a female I follow on instagram, @goodnailsgonebad aka Royal Fiasco. She's a MEGA Lupe fan! She had 3 tickets to his show in Atlanta but she also had other obligations, so was nice enough to do a giveaway for the tickets. To enter, all you had to do was email her why you should get a ticket. And how lucky am I that I got picked! I was so stoked. One thing that she asked was that we all get together for a picture at the show.

We exchanged numbers via email and it was David who made the first move and called me the day before the show. We chatted for a while then I said I would touch bases with him tomorrow before the show. We agreed to meet at the door of the venue around 8pm then go in and enjoy the show together, as a group. We could take pictures together outside and inside.

The day of the concert, earlier that afternoon, I attended a funeral. After the funeral I took a nap. Just before I laid down, I called David. He said he was coming from a wedding in South Carolina, which was not yet over, so with the travel time he's gonna be late but he was still coming. I said cool, let me know when you get here, we'll try to save you a seat. The third ticket winner, Marisa, hadn't been heard from yet. I called her and left a message letting her know the plan.

Then I took my nap which ended up lasting longer than I wanted. So now I'm rushing. The show starts at 9pm, we were gonna meet up at 8pm, but it's now 830 and I'm not there yet. My phone rings and its Marisa, who "just" got my message and is calling to see if we are inside and did we save her a seat. I laughed. I had to. The day wasn't going well so far and her call irked me. I told her I was on the way. She says ok I'm going inside, call me when you get here.

I park and go inside. I called her and found her inside. She brought a friend. We chatted for a bit and waited for the show to start. Still no word from David.

The show starts with the Boy Illinois, who was on his first tour in his first city. He was good and put on a decent performance. Then there was a short break and some other guy came on stage. His name is Trouble Trouble. I was scratching my head as I listened to his song cause I'm thinking, this has to be a favor that Lupe did for someone. Somebody bargained with Lupe to allow their cousin or nephew or somebody to do their "ratchet music." I just remember dude rapping about "love by the gun, die by the gun" and swag this, swag that. Then he sounded like he was booing on the hook, like maybe someone should have been singing that part or something. Or maybe he was really booing lol. Either way, he did one song and was gone.

For most of the night, it sounded like someone put on an old Ludacris cd and just let it play during the "breaks." The DJ had a few minutes to do some spinning but hearing "Hannah Montana" and "Versace" was irking me so I welcomed the Ludacris again. He also announced that Lupe was "on the way."

The next performer was Stalley. Before he came on, Marisa went into the crowd while her friend took a pic of her. Then her friend grabbed her jacket from under the seat and went into the crowd. They both just disappeared, without a single word. I was miffed for a sec but then I let it go. Marisa didn't seem to want to honor RHOyal's request anyways. Still no word from David. I sent him a text but never got a response so I enjoyed the rest of my night alone.

Stalley was good but he sounded like an upstate rapper. Not saying anything is wrong with them, I'm just not a big fan of upstate rappers. I enjoyed his performance tho.

Finally, the man of the hour comes out. Lupe Fiasco is so much more good looking in person. He rocked out like he was on one. He was super crunk. Did mostly his hits and some new stuff.

The funniest part was towards the end when he told all the guys in the crowd to turn around. "To all my niggas, I love yall, ima need all of you to back up." Lupe wanted all the women in the front and all the guys in the back with their backs turned to him. He was serious too. "I know this is Atlanta but yall need to turn around." And the guys did it. Then Lupe went into his song. Most of the guys slowly turned to the side to try to watch. Some still had their backs turned. Lupe yelled at one dude during the song. "Hey, turn your ass back around." It was funny.

By now my phone battery is just about dead so as soon as I see him walk off stage, I head for the door. Since he arrived late, they told him he couldn't do an encore cause he was already over time. So when it was over, it was over. I really enjoyed myself and it was a great way to end a not so great day. I hate that David didn't make it and we couldn't get the pic for RHOyal, but I had a great time by myself.

When I got to work tonight, one of the forest things I saw was this car tag. It made me wonder if this guy's a Lupe Fiasco fan lol. 

Locked Up

I miss writing.

I want to write but I can't.

It's like something has psychologically locked that part of my mind away and no matter what techniques I try, I can't break it. I feel like I hit a literal wall.

And it was so much a part of my life for so long that now, this time without it, I don't feel whole. I have a yearning, a longing for a distant lover.

But this is a battle I will fight to the death. I will never stop trying to break the wall. To rescue and reunite with my love.

That would be a glorious day indeed.

Reading is Fundamental

It's been a while since I've read a book. And that's sad. Especially considering I have a ton of books. I've been doing so much on the computer, whether it be work or leisure, that I've just gotten away from a favorite pastime.

That is about to change. I've just picked up a Dan Brown book and I'm a big fan of his work. I read all his books before they even made the Da Vinci Code movie. So i was definitely stoked to find this new one.
I tried the ebooks but reading on my phone just doesn't cut it for me. Too many distractions with notifications and calls and texts. Then there's the battery issue. I just prefer a physical book. Not to mention, this move to digital press is what made me get laid off from the best job EVA! So instead of buying another gadget and then buying the ebooks, I'll just give my money to good old fashion print press books. And maybe one day in the future, they'll be worth some money.

Oh, by the way, the book I have is called Inferno. I'll post my review of or when I'm finished.